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The Gentleman’s Handbook: Golden Sounds

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So the Gentleman’s Handbook comes to its conclusion, and some of you may ask why sound is its selection. Of all of the Aristotelian senses “hearing” may not be the  climax you expected. Sight was certainly a gripping introduction, but why didn’t I go with more titillating touches and tastes? The answer is simple, because I planned it this way.

As readers of this series you may have noticed each edition includes a song sung by Sinatra. They call this legend “The Voice” for good reason. Not only has he sold over fifty million records since his first forty-five, he accomplished such with a sound all his own. Sure there are crooners that came before and after the Chairman of the Board, but none as instantly recognizable or eternally unforgettable as he.

With such a man as the model let me now move forward with our final topic. Using the structure that has become a staple for this series I will divide the discussion into sub-topics: music, conversation, and silence.

Music: Too often in my past I pushed play on songs that merely annoyed the lady sitting next to me. Base and vulgar bravado burst out of my speakers to the dismay of my companion. Though I haven’t changed my musical taste, I’ve nevertheless been able to open my mind and thus limit the tension. Giving a woman control over the radio may cause many to cringe, but it is a far better option than giving her additional arsenal against you. This is not to say you are a coward by giving her command, rather you are a gentleman for accompanying her acoustic escape. Listen to the sounds that soothe her, and offer her the comfort to sing them out loud.

Conversation: This demand is made by any woman worth her salt. Not only do they want you to sound interesting, they want their own audio equally enjoyed. This is an art difficult to master. Surrendering one’s lips to the ears above is no easy task. You enjoy expressing your point, and you hope beyond the same that she swoons over its harmonious notes. She may, but be sure to offer her the same sways when she counters with a thought of her own.

Intelligence is a tricky topic. You’re probably certain that despite test scores you are an intelligent person, but do you afford the fairer sex the same grace? Like it or not you must, so fella’s eyes up and ears open, she has something to say and nothing would mean more to her than you caring to listen.

Silence: They say silence is golden, and certainly it is. Absence often equals increase, and longing though painful can be a good thing. However, I speak of silence not simply as keeping one’s mouth shut, but rather letting the pen produce the words lips may stumble over.

Vulnerability is difficult to say the least. No man the risks involved in putting oneself out on the line between embrace and exclusion. Nevertheless, vulnerability is the meat and muscle beneath the body of love. In my brief but noted experience I’ve found the best way to relay one’s sensitive side is in the written word. Now a debate may be raised that my bias is based on the fact I fancy myself a writer, so let me offer some depth.

There is nothing as classic as putting ones thoughts to paper, (and when I say printing it out I don’t mean printing it out). If you’re the type that has troubles getting started try one of two things. First, think of the reasons why you love her and simply list them out. Truth be told there is nothing as poetic as honesty, lies with luscious language bow before the truth.

Second, if you need further inspiration Shakespeare is your guy. As the creator of our common speech it’s nice to see how he accomplished the task. If you want to witness how he wooed women in particular peruse his sonnets starring the “dark lady.” These are some of the most influential bits of poetry I’ve ever read. So to end this series I do so by providing ‘the switch’ in the masters very own hand:

In faith I do not love thee with mine eyes,
For they in thee a thousand errors note,
But ’tis my heart that loves what they despise,
Who in despite of view is pleased to dote.
Nor are mine cars with thy tongue’s tune delighted,
Nor tender feeling to base touches prone,
Nor taste, nor smell, desire to be invited
To any sensual feast with thee alone:
But my five wits, nor my five senses can
Dissuade one foolish heart from serving thee,
Who leaves unswayed the likeness of a man,
Thy proud heart’s slave and vassal wretch to be:
Only my plague thus far I count my gain,
That she that makes me sin, awards me pain.


~ the best is yet to come


  • Chris Elliott

    WOW man. Great finish to a fabulous series. I would just like to say, I was VERY impressed with The Gentleman’s Handbook. Seriously dude. Very creative, a step out of the box for you, and extremely well written all the way through. Honestly. You make me want to majorly step my game up! ahaha 

    • Anonymous

      Glad somebody enjoyed the series. It was fun to come up with a multi-blog concept and work to deliver it. I have another series I am working towards polishing up to replace it. I told you about it before, but I got some sculpting to do before I drop it, “The Real American Apparel.” 

      • Chris Elliott

        Well, as we spoke about, I’d love to collaborate with you on that one. Let me know what your thoughts are. Sent wirelessly from my BlackBerry device on the Bell network.
        Envoyé sans fil par mon terminal mobile BlackBerry sur le réseau de Bell.

      • Anonymous

        I will, I just have to work out the kinks. I think I want to make it a three part series, I just need to figure out delivery and labels. 

  • Chris Elliott

    AND, the Sinatra was KEY! Great pick. 

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